WILL SMITH

Smith slaps Rock for a joke on Jada’s short hair. Her short hair is a side effect of an illness she is going through. Smith’s slap was on cue for the role he played in “King Richard”…i.e. defends the name and reputation of family. Lesson: be mindful of what you say about people’s appearance.

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https://www.wsj.com/articles/will-smith-no-charges-slap-chris-rock-11648476100?mod=hp_lead_pos5

KAREEM SPEAKS….

Kareem Abdul-Jabbar writes:

“When Will Smith stormed onto the Oscar stage to strike Chris Rock for making a joke about his wife’s short hair, he did a lot more damage than just to Rock’s face. With a single petulant blow, he advocated violence, diminished women, insulted the entertainment industry, and perpetuated stereotypes about the Black community. That’s a lot to unpack. Let’s start with the facts: Rock made a reference to Smith’s wife, Jada Pinkett Smith, as looking like Demi Moore in ‘G.I. Jane,’ in which Moore had shaved her head. Jada Pinkett Smith suffers from alopecia, which causes hair loss. Ok, I can see where the Smiths might not have found that joke funny. But Hollywood awards shows are traditionally a venue where much worse things have been said about celebrities as a means of downplaying the fact that it’s basically a gathering of multimillionaires giving each other awards to boost business so they can make even more money. The Smiths could have reacted by politely laughing along with the joke or by glowering angrily at Rock. Instead, Smith felt the need to get up in front of his industry peers and millions of people around the world, hit another man, then return to his seat to bellow: ‘Keep my wife’s name out of your fucking mouth.’ Twice. Some have romanticized Smith’s actions as that of a loving husband defending his wife. Comedian Tiffany Haddish, who starred in the movie ‘Girls Trip’ with Pinkett Smith, praised Smith’s actions: ‘[F]or me, it was the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen because it made me believe that there are still men out there that love and care about their women, their wives.’ Actually, it was the opposite. Smith’s slap was also a slap to women. If Rock had physically attacked Pinkett Smith, Smith’s intervention would have been welcome. Or if he’d remained in his seat and yelled his post-slap threat, that would have been unnecessary, but understandable. But by hitting Rock, he announced that his wife was incapable of defending herself—against words. From everything I’d seen of Pinkett Smith over the years, she’s a very capable, tough, smart woman who can single-handedly take on a lame joke at the Academy Awards show. This patronizing, paternal attitude infantilizes women and reduces them to helpless damsels needing a Big Strong Man to defend their honor least they swoon from the vapors. If he was really doing it for his wife, and not his own need to prove himself, he might have thought about the negative attention this brought on them, much harsher than the benign joke. That would have been truly defending and respecting her. This ‘women need men to defend them’ is the same justification currently being proclaimed by conservatives passing laws to restrict abortion and the LGBTQ+ community. Worse than the slap was Smith’s tearful, self-serving acceptance speech in which he rambled on about all the women in the movie ‘King Richard’ that he’s protected. Those who protect don’t brag about it in front of 15 million people. They just do it and shut up. You don’t do it as a movie promotion claiming how you’re like the character you just won an award portraying. But, of course, the speech was about justifying his violence. Apparently, so many people need Smith’s protection that occasionally it gets too much and someone needs to be smacked. What is the legacy of Smith’s violence? He’s brought back the Toxic Bro ideal of embracing Kobra Kai teachings of ‘might makes right’ and ‘talk is for losers.’ Let’s not forget that this macho John Wayne philosophy was expressed in two movies in which Wayne spanked grown women to teach them a lesson. Young boys—especially Black boys—watching their movie idol not just hit another man over a joke, but then justify it as him being a superhero-like protector, are now much more prone to follow in his childish footsteps. Perhaps the saddest confirmation of this is the tweet from Smith’s child Jaden: ‘And That’s How We Do It.’ The Black community also takes a direct hit from Smith. One of the main talking points from those supporting the systemic racism in America is characterizing Blacks as more prone to violence and less able to control their emotions. Smith just gave comfort to the enemy by providing them with the perfect optics they were dreaming of. Many will be reinvigorated to continue their campaign to marginalize African Americans and others through voter suppression campaign. As for the damage to show business, Smith’s violence is an implied threat to all comedians who now have to worry that an edgy or insulting joke might be met with violence. Good thing Don Rickles, Bill Burr, or Ricky Gervais weren’t there. As comedian Kathy Griffin tweeted: ‘Now we all have to worry about who wants to be the next Will Smith in comedy clubs and theaters.’ The one bright note is that Chris Rock, clearly stunned, managed to handle the moment with grace and maturity. If only Smith’s acceptance speech had shown similar grace and maturity—and included, instead of self-aggrandizing excuses, a heartfelt apology to Rock.”

AUNTIE DOLLY

Remembering Obdulia “Dolly” Rigor Castillo (Feb. 9, 1924-March 20, 2022)

We mourn the passing of Obdulia “Dolly” Rigor Castillo, affectionately called, “Auntie Dolly”, who passed away on March 20, 2022, at the age of 98. Auntie Dolly was a Pinay–Filipina American–pioneer educator, mentor, author, and leader in Seattle like no other. Did you grow up in Seattle and learn Tinikling (a Philippine folk dance, where you jump between clapping bamboos) in Gym class? You can thank Auntie Dolly for that, as she was one of the first Filipino American Physical Education teachers for Seattle Public Schools and introduced a multicultural curriculum in the 1970s. Thousands of students and families were undoubtedly touched by Auntie Dolly’s teachings and influence. In 1972, Auntie Dolly and other educators founded the Filipino American Educators of Washington, a non-profit organization that provides scholarships and professional development for Filipino Americans. She taught many children, teens, and young adults Philippine folk dances through her Immaculata Dance Troupe after school dance program, and the Fil-Am Barangay Dance Company that she founded.

Auntie Dolly was a friend of my parents; she was elected President of the Filipino Community of Seattle a few years after my father was. They would all sing and dance together at Filipino community functions and at the International Drop-In Center, where, in her retirement, Auntie Dolly became the IDIC Activities Coordinator.

My fondest memory of Auntie Dolly was when she lovingly taught 18 of my closest friends and me traditional Philippine cotillion dances for my 18th Birthday Debut. We only had one practice before the event, but Auntie Dolly was an excellent, energetic teacher with a quick wit. When the teenage boys were tripping over their feet and not so enthusiastic about waltzing, bowing, and twirling, Auntie Dolly clapped her hands, gently pinched their cheeks, and said, “You can do it! You are all smart and fast learners, you will make us all proud!” After the dance, which all 18 did flawlessly, my friends said, “Auntie Dolly was right! We learned it in a day and did it!” She taught us to be proud of our Filipino culture and dedicated her life to educating others. I’m sure many of you have more fond memories of Auntie Dolly; please feel free to share them here.

Auntie Dolly published three books, including two children’s books and her memoir, Raindrops. In 2015, our Filipino American National Historical Society (FANHS) National Office awarded her the FANHS Mars Rivera Community Service Award, for her decades of service to the community.

Rest in Peace, Auntie Dolly. My parents are saving a dance for you in heaven. Thank you for everything you did for me, my family, and our community. Sending love, prayers, and condolences to Mimi CastilloGabe Castillo, Uncle Sluggo Rigor, your entire family, and all who loved you.

~Emily P. Lawsin

FANHS National President

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Mimi Castillo’s Eulogy at 1:00:30

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Uncle Emilio, Gabe, Auntie Dolly and Mimi Castillo

NO FREEDOM OF SPEECH

Many Americans are understandably confused, then, about what they can say and where they can say it. People should be able to put forward viewpoints, ask questions and make mistakes, and take unpopular but good-faith positions on issues that society is still working through — all without fearing cancellation.

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PREVENTING ALZHEIMERS

Alzheimer’s disease is the sixth leading cause of death for people over the age of sixty-five. We can’t slow it down once you are diagnosed, and we haven’t cured it. Therefore, there have been no survivors of anyone ever diagnosed with Alzheimer’s until we have a major medical breakthrough. In this week’s episode, you’ll learn about the top ten tips for preventing Alzheimer’s Disease. Part One of ‘Ten Tips for Preventing Alzheimer’s Disease’ While getting older is the biggest risk factor, including your gender and your genetics, those are things that you can’t really control. But your biggest risk factors are your lifestyle choices. Those are called modifiable risk factors, so that we can do something about those.

Tip 1: Stay Active Move Naturally. I heard this tip several years ago at a conference at a presentation on the Blue Zones. I was relieved to know that I didn’t need to start training for a marathon or spend hours in the gym everyday. It’s about the small things – like making sure that you’re getting 10,000 steps in a day and doing some type of strength and flexibility exercise in your daily life. You should have or maintain an active lifestyle – whether it’s moving around your house, walking around the block, or volunteering – all those things can help because there have been several studies that have associated the amount of physical activity that you have in a day. It does reduce your risk of getting Alzheimer’s disease.

Tip 2. Stay Connected The second tip is to stay connected. In the middle of a pandemic, this has been a little bit more challenging for all of us. But making sure that you’re staying connected to your family, friends, and community is important because if you’re not doing that, you are socially isolated. Social isolation is the equivalent of smoking a pack of cigarettes a day. You can check out my podcast about the Well Connected program as a resource for online and landline social connection opportunities.

Tip 3: Learn New Things You can do this by taking formal classes or just learning a new hobby. You can sign up to take a class at a community college or take online courses about topics that you are interested in. You can also pick up a new hobby. Maybe there’s something that you’ve always wanted to learn how to do. YouTube teaches me new things every day – from learning to paint and spackle my own walls to changing out my toilet flapper. Who knew?! You can check out my YouTube channel to learn more about healthy aging and things we need to think about (and do) to become an age-friendly world. “It is important to challenge and activate your mind.” — Melissa Batchelor, PhD, RN, FNP, FAAN

Tip 4: Get Enough Sleep Do you have good sleep habits? You can find out how if you do here. If you didn’t get enough sleep, that’s going to impact your ability to think, and it’s going to cause trouble with your memory. There are common sleep changes, but also thinking about is there an underlying reason for why you’re not getting as much sleep? If you’re having trouble getting to sleep or falling asleep, those could be signs of depression, anxiety, or you’re experiencing sleep apnea, a potentially serious sleep disorder in which breathing repeatedly stops and starts. If you are having any trouble with your sleep or not waking up rested and refreshed, that would be worth having a conversation with your primary care provider.

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TIGER in GOLF HALL OF FAME

Fight for what you believe in….Chase your dreams. Nothing is ever given to you. Everything is earned.

If you don’t go out there and put in the work, the effort:

  1. You will never get the results
  2. More importantly, you won’t deserve it. You didn’t earn it.

https://www.pgatour.com/news/2022/03/09/tiger-woods-world-golf-hall-of-fame-induction-ceremony.html

https://www.washingtonpost.com/sports/2022/03/10/tiger-woods-hall-of-fame-speech/